BDSM Relationships and Safety
đContracts in BDSM relationships should have "seasons of life" and be renegotiated as needed, allowing for shifts between high and low protocol to accommodate changing life circumstances.
đTo find a good Dom, attend munches, discussions, and social events in the BDSM community, and observe potential partners' play style at dungeons while being cautious of those who try to limit your social interactions.
đ„Cultivate a support network of people who will check on your well-being, especially in darker play styles or long-distance relationships, to serve as a "canary in the coal mine" for unhealthy dynamics.
BDSM Practices and Equipment
đïžBlindfolds like Mr S Leather Ultra with elastic STPs and flat adjusters offer better fit, while Scott Paul Designs' "one-way magic blindfold" allows vague shape/color recognition through a "bokeh effect" for visual communication.
đ§In dungeons, calibrate volume levels to avoid excessively loud music, and consider using earplugs to ensure safety and effective communication.
đ§€Leather gloves can help a Dom enter headspace and enhance impact play by adding padding and protection, reducing the sting of strikes.
BDSM Community and Events
đšWhen attending a kinky daycare event, bring comfort items like earplugs, blindfolds, and sensory items, along with snacks and materials for making friendship bracelets to facilitate connections.
đŠThere's an overlap between furries and kink communities, with fursuiters generally welcome in kink spaces, even if they're the only ones present.
BDSM Psychology and Dynamics
đ"Subfrenzy" is comparable to teenage obsession, characterized by constant thoughts about a partner and positive anticipation that can lead to work avoidance and loss of interest in other activities.
đ"Limerance" is an intense, obsessive infatuation lasting 3 months to 2 years, often misinterpreted as love at first sight, characterized by intrusive thoughts, idealization, and emotional volatility.
đ§ Mental health conditions like ADHD are common in the BDSM community, with the structure and intense stimulation of BDSM potentially benefiting those with such conditions.